Honoring Your Own Boundaries
LOVE YOURSELF… NOW IT’S TIME TO LIKE YOURSELF
Many of my clients come to me feeling stuck - there is an internal fight happening. There is a part of them who is loving and kind towards themselves and there is an inner critic that is mean and cruel.
As women we have been taught to love ourselves and often we think this should be enough to keep us inspired, motivated and on our road to success.
BUT IT’S NOT! In this case love alone won’t cut it.
We can love someone and not want to spend every waking moment with them…. But we do not get a break from OURSELVES.
No matter what is happening in life, there you are, no escape….every waking moment.
We cannot let “loving ourselves” be an excuse to let ourselves off the hook and NOT show up for what truly matters.
We often find ourselves saying, “I’ve worked hard I deserve (naughty pleasure of choice.)”
These sloppy boundaries are little self-betrayals that will leave us feeling bummed and questioning our own brilliance.
Here is the key to liking ourselves and what I’m most excited to share - IT IS TIME TO CREATE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES TO AND FOR OURSELVES.
This one tool alone will allow anyone to feel incredibly POWERFUL!
When we have sloppy boundaries or boundaries that are too rigid, we cannot show up for ourselves in a consistent way that allows us to feel proud.
The clients I work with get extraordinary results because they are practicing building their muscle of pride with healthy boundaries daily. I teach them how to fast track to success so they are showing up powerfully for themselves, in both work and relationships.
That inner critic that says, you are not “doing” enough or not “good” enough is a lie based on fear and it’s continuing the cycle of shame, playing out different versions of the imposter experience.
Here’s the truth. We are all powerful beyond measure!
When we practice setting healthy boundaries, we have direct access to our highest, most authentic selves. Living from this place it becomes easy to then listen, trust and follow our intuition.
When we are feeling down, stuck or just not like ourselves, we should ask this one question and start doing this one activity daily:
What must I stop doing? Just pick one simple thing you are willing to give up to go up.
Each morning, start the day with something to shock your system. Do not hit that snooze button. Get up, step into the day intentionally and do an activity that has you feeling fully alive. {Here are some examples: wash your face with cold water, take a cold shower, go outside and put your bare feet to the earth, scream, sing, 3 min solo dance party. }
Let me know if you need help?
With love,
Liv